tell her you're done and force her hand to do something one way or another..
I actually think you are at this point. Negotiation. You are out of options and you need to find out what, if anything, she's willing to do.
I was thinking about the XH too, and I know you have been good not snooping and all that. But something ain't right with her.
Although frustrated, you sound calm. Stay strong. Do what you gotta do.
Whiskey
hell I don't know..I'm a big fan of the 180..if it ain't working then do something just to see what the hell they do...maybe they get scared and snap out of it..maybe they say alright then..we just divorce..my advice..get your crap together and stuff straight for whatever their reaction is and deal with it..
what ever route you chose if your heads not where it needs to be and you're not emotionally centered then your pretty much screwed anyway..IMO
