I emailed you, but will add some hard stuff (don't hate me)....I feel that your H and OW had a 'plan' to cool down for awhile, but they never ended it. I feel that OW got cold feet about putting a plan in action, but your H has always been waiting. I feel he used you when he had nowhere to go (after the DUI, and license thing). I feel that he would have left you and D4 if he had the money/freedom to do so.
Here's something though my friend: Your husband loves you. Your husband loves your daughter. I don't think this has ever changed. But we have learned from this board that love isn't enough sometimes. Your husband lacks strength and integrity.
I do agree with this for sure. I do believe he loves you just as mine still does too at times...the just lack integrity.
Please don't put up with this any longer. Kick him out. Don't give him a time frame, just get it done. Its hard to do, but really you are doing this on your own anyway. The only thing that will change is your peace of mind knowing you are no longer used and manipulated by this man.
Respect yourself!!
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
