Another night has gone by. I told her yesterday that I was going to take a hour lunch and be home later. I work 9 hr days and it takes an hour going to/from work. I opened a account with the closest credit union to work and got the numbers to change my direct deposit from the credit union where my W is also on my account. I had lunch and stopped at the post office.
I took a 1.5 hours of vacation and came home about the same time as usual hoping to spend some time with my kids.
When I got home my W asked how my day had gone. I spent a few minutes giving her a very short report and asked then asked how her day went.
My wife had washed some dishes just before she started cooking dinner. I asked what I could do to help. Normally she would say nothing but last night she said I could set the table. We were out of the fancy silverware and I checked to see if they were still in the dishwasher. They were but the dishes did not get cleaned from last night. She said I could wash them since the water was still in the sink. I did and then set the table. I came back and dried and put away the rest of the dishes in the sink. I also took some short breaks to check my mail on the computer in the next room.
We had a good dinner and the kids were in a good mood and we all talked. My daughter was talking about a sky diving class. I asked my W if she had ever thought about jumping out of a plane. She said no. This is about the level of our talks. Pleasant but short.
After dinner my wife started to wash the rest of the dishes from the dishwasher and I dried and put them away. As has happened in the past I did something to annoy my W. I saw that some silverware still had some suds on them so I turned the water on to wash it off. My wife told me she had already done that in a upset tone of voice. Here I am trying to help and I get that instead of appreciation. Thinking about it maybe she had some reason. She asked what I did for lunch. I told her about the other things but not about the new account. I sure she could tell that I was leaving something out.
She is worried that I have memory problems and can not handle paying the bills. I have said several times that I would like to start doing that. Two days ago I asked her if I had done something to cause her to be upset with me since the kids came home. One of the things she mentioned was that I had asked to start paying the bills. Right now most of my paycheck is deposited into her account and she pays most of the bills. I pay for my gas and for bills associated with a 1 arce property that we own out of state.
I mentioned that I would have to learn to pay the bills in the future. After a D I can not see having her as my accountant!
I need to figure out how to start to protect myself. I still have the view that I can choose to have my money or to have a possible chance at saving the M. I will give the money up for the family. I would like to not have to sell the house and would like to stay in it. I love were we live and I am sure my kids would be upset to loose the house also. This is going to be hard.
After finishing the dishes my wife went to the living room and got on her laptop. I headed for the treadmill for a 1/2 hour workout. When I came backup up she was deep into her computer and I went to another room to check this forum and my e-mail. I then headed past her and she still seemed very busy and I went to bed without saying anything. I was reading in bed when she joined me. She said goodnight and I said goodnight back to her. I then shared a quote that made me laugh. It was quote from a Wife that said that her H showed love by having sex with her but to her love is shown by letting her sleep. My wife kinda laughed and then I turned out the lights and went to sleep. I got up early to type this but will head back to bed for a few hours.
I hope this gives a quit glimpse to what is going on.
