Waiting patiently and wondering gets you no where at times.
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so the question now..do I lay in this muck or do I get up? Do I get all batchitt crazy so I can play the game with all the other loonies? at least the playing field will then be even..hell I know batchitt so well I may even be able to slightly tilt the field in my favor.
Hi M. I have been following your thread.
The above guotes have me confused. My instincts tell me this is about "women" or "a woman"...(isn't it always
Can you clarify? Come on man.. Tell it straight. What's up?
GL..following my thread well I'll be..LONG TIME no post brother or sister...which ever the case may be..
your instincts would be correct..as usual..and I'll say this..
just when you think you have it (them) figured out...that's when you may just get biooocccth (for lack of a better word) slapped back into reality...
see GL..I don't get it..I don't understand it..and I thought I did..I was confident that I did understand..I was extremely confident that I got it.
but the reality may just be knowing when to play nice and when to be bad..it seems bad always over comes the good in the end..at least in these here parts...
you'll be happy to know that I'm busy living..at least I got that going for me..
and yep..I know I'm negative as hell...right now..I have every right to be..
I think that is it, MIke. We are out-of-the-ordinary. Maybe even above the ordinary, if I dare be so bold and judgemental (ot will spank me on that one).
But we do have high moral standards. That is not ordinary; its special. You asked me once when I gave you a similar comment - that you were a good guy - you asked What makes me think that you are a good guy?
It is your integrity. Your commitment to your daughter. Your attempts to make things work and stand by your vows. Your willingness to do the hard work, look within yourself at the bad, as well as the good, and make changes accordingly.
Mike, don't compromise your integrity and morals, for anyone. In the end, you would feel terrible, not better, because it is integral to who you are. And that is a positive thing. It should inspire those around you to rise up; rather than the other way around.
Everyone has self-doubts. I think that is why your fb posts were so cryptic - and we are here to validate you, my friend. Soldier of the heart, you are. Its ok to ask for that from us sometimes; you are sure to get it. You are one of the good guys, no question about it.
We need to be able to have some recognitions on DB, don't you think? Maybe a rank system like the military, or badges of honor (could we get merit badges, like Scouts? Hey, that might be fun! We need to set out some requirements...do 4 of the 6 activites below to earn this badge for your sash!) Hey, thinking about that might cheer you up a bit - just think of all the things you have learned and accomplished through this journey!
Brother go back to the basics and do what makes you happy, sushi and a beer, watch a ballgame...
As you have said to me countless times STOP trying to figure out the illogical there is no answer...
You are smarter than that...
Brian
Aw hell you drew cornfed out of the closet.......
Look dude, I am not loading my guns nor counting my ammo.
I want you to simply think about what it is you are saying. Normal.... who exactly gets to define this?
Women without any baggage in Tennessee------ZERO Men without any baggage in Tennessee------ZERO
You see, I think what you and I have in common is that our expectations of normalcy are based on a great deal of time spent here getting ourselves back to normal. We read the posts by these amazing women on here and we believe that it is just the women we picked or hook up with that are nuts. It's not.....
The women on this board are amazing, however and I believe most of them would agree here, even they are not normal. In fact forget just the boards, anyone who has ever had a relationship, is probably not normal.
Unfortunately in todays world most women have been married at least once. Most men as well. Most of us have at least one child. Most of us have an ex that was/is a stalker. Most of us have our moments of jealousy, anxiety, hysteria, or just plain old crazy..... It's part of the programing. I think that what you need to be thinking about is finding someone who handles themselves well when the insanity kicks in.
If you were to find someone who was perfectly "normal" I believe you would be waiting around on pins and needles for the hammer to drop and something crazy to rear it's ugly head.
So no hammer here buddy..... .just relax and to quote the great Sargent Hulka.... Lighten up Francis........
Ah...with such warm words how could a person not feel welcomed...
What is normal??
Normal is a perception not a true condition...
What one sees as 'normal' may be total whack to another...ie.
Is it 'normal' for a person to actually want to live in Tennessee...I think not think that is called inbreeding...
A man picks his nose on the bus and then eats it is that normal...maybe in his world but I'm sure not in yours or mine...
Um my point is that it is ones perception of the word 'normal' as it relates to 'their' world. We all have baggage we carry that can not be disposed of but is a part of us in other sitch's that baggage just doesn't know it is time to go...
In an imperfect world with imperfect people there has to be a gray area that is just what it is and it's up to you, me, whoever to make the choice to either deal with it or not...
You are okay man time to get out of your head and as I said earlier get back to the Mike you have become and the basics don't let it control you...
Brian, your ears musta been burning. I was just asking about you last night. You've got mail.
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
Holy crap I've scored the trifecta..my luck must be changing.
GL, Racefan and SC all visiting me on the same day
that's an attempt at humor in my negative state there kids..would hate to offend anyone.
Brian coming out of a self imposed exile of months and posting all for me...that's almost like the US finding Bin Laden...the allies winnning WWII..this may be considered a great moment in history....
