Part of it IS "evidence" should we end up in divorce court. I am also very much a "keeper" when it comes to letters, cards, momentos, journals, even e-mails. I like to have hard "proof" of things.
Some of the stuff was SO unbelievable, that in a way I keep it to remind myself what CJ is capable of. Protection for me somehow??
I honestly haven't looked in that file since I shoved the stuff in there. It's NOT something I torture myself or CJ with.
And as I've posted recently, my level of trust and such is increasing and I think I will KNOW when it's time to BBQ OW
Boy I had better chime in here before this thread locks up at this rate!!! I even had to resort to printing it and reading off-line to catch up!
Shiny, I'm so happy for the both of youse!! It sounds like you're reaching the final chapter in your success story!
At the end of your last thread, which you also titled with a question, I prompted the request as to whether you found the answer to your title. Looks like this time the answer is clear to all!!! Maybe its time to close out this thread titled:
I have a file as well. It's full of emails we sent back and forth at the begining of our seperation...as well as the papers he signed promising certain things.
I too am keeping it just in case, but most of the time, I don't remember it's there.
In fact, I only remembered I had such a file when reading these posts about yours!
And here I thought I was the only one keeping a file of evidence.
Shiney, this recent development in your situation has given me something solid to grasp onto in my head. For some odd reason, I have writer's block whenever I try to express the deep emotional response I experience when reading through CJ's emails to you. And also in relating to the profound sense of relief this must have brought to you. Being able to "breathe again".
Oh darn, here it goes again. I'm losing it.
You and Tal are looking like the next big success stories around here. And Sage's situation is unfolding like petals on a budding rose. It is such a relief for me to see my ole buddies walking out of the shadows into the full light of day.
I raise my glass to this shimmering moment in time.
Haven't been around much SB, but I think you know my thoughts about the whole file thing. Perhaps you have addressed this before, but does he know about your evidence? In my case, the fact that she was doing that to me really, really hurt. When we burned everything, it felt like a huge load had been lifted. Just some food for thought.
Even though I rarely come by anymore, don't believe that I don't think about all you guys. It is just so hard to keep caught up with everyone though.
I know God won't give me anything I can't handle. I just wish He didn't trust me so much.
I forgot to mention that I sent CJ an e-mail yesterday regarding the monthly finances/receipts stuff that’s been piling up since May. I guess I worded it the right way!
I said that if he sorted through that stack (and I would help) by month’s end, I would take over this monthly task (clearly I am more motivated to keep up with it, didn’t say that though! ). He e-mailed me back with a promise of breakfast cooked by him, we’d share that nasty task and then tackle some yard stuff together.
I replied that how sad is it that I’m happy about doing these chores!
Well it’s a cool rainy day, so we had that breakfast and then tackled the receipts…took a couple of hours, but boy is it nice to see that mountain of stuff disappear!
Note to self…nicely put, direct request e-mails seem to work!!!
I guess I worded it the right way!
). He e-mailed me back with a promise of breakfast cooked by him, we’d share that nasty task and then tackle some yard stuff together.