W texted me after the exchange above that she was coming to get S6 - I replied that I would drop him off, because we were playing Wii golf. She came anyway to get him, and she was spitting fire...
She came up and whispered in my ear, "I HATE you." Then she announced to D8 and S6 that she was going to start keeping them on Monday nights, and Daddy wasn't going to keep them anymore. I smiled, and said that I was very sorry she felt that way, but we could have a conversation about that wasn't in front of the kids. She kept on going, then marched them out. I told her we could have a calm civil conversation, but I wasn't going to fight, and she said, "No, I'm calm, just not letting you control me."
WOW!!!! Couldn't imagine my W busting in the door and grabbing the kids. That is complete disrespect toward you and even worse for the kids. What kind of lesson does her little rant teach the kids? It's OK to throw a tantrum to get your way? WTF.
Maybe it's time set a boundary about when W is "allowed" to come over? Was she supposed to pick your D up? When was the exchange supposed to be?
The control comment stems from the back and forth earlier about NYE. We talked about that. You have to make it seem like her idea.
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Then, "I can't believe you, you never change."
As Puppy would say, this is script for WAS.
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She rolled out - I was not going to make a scene in front of the kids, so I just smiled, and kept saying, "Not in front of the kids."
Good job defending the kids!!!! Keep them far away from this sort of behavior. That is being a man (and a dad).
No need to smile if your pi$$ed. "Not in front of the kids. I think you should leave now" is all you need.
The rest is a pi$$ing match you don't need. Avoid it or don't play into it. It's counter productive.
Notice how one bad exchange leads to another? You have to end that cycle.
