The unfaithful wife...that's me..

[kat727]

Ok, it sounds like you both had issues and neither one of you dealt with them in a productive way. But I guess you already knew that. The reason I wanted to stay married even with him actively cheating was that I loved him and had 4 kids with him. I wanted our family.

The reason I don't want him back...he showed no respect for our family. He won't admit that he did anything wrong. He won't apologize for all of the damage he has done. He recently filed bankruptcy and left me without an alternative but to follow. His actions have shown a kinder side lately but I think it is the holidays.

I think you know what changes you need to make for you to be happy with yourself and the life you have created. You will have to work to show that you deserve his trust back, it won't be easily given. Even with that, it may not work but you may even want to suggest Retrovaille. It may help you both communicate and help you reconnect. I haven't been, but I know it is a highly regarded program.

I wish you the best. Keep posting and venting here. There are a lot of wonderful people that can offer better advice than I.

kat