Yes you are right, and you should know that my inlaws REFUSED to meet the ow for more than a YEAR !! Until finally the kids met her and H buldozered her into their lives...you have to know that my inlaws by no means condone what he is doing, but it's like you say, 'you can love someone and not like their actions'.
Their road with their son has been bumpy for many many decades...and believe me when I tell you that it is by no means easy for H now, as his parents STILL tell him and ow that this is not what they had hoped for.
Thanks for your post Luci, I'm sorry to hear about what your XH did to you, I think that is appalling !
Love Cinders xxx
"In the depths of my winter, I realized there is within me an invincible summer" Albert Camus