Tim I don't think I am up on your sitch completely, but seem to remember some similarities with mine...at least as far as your WAW still being home with you...or back with you.
Mine never left or asked me to leave after she dropped the bomb last April.
We have never stopped the physical part of our relationship, and seemed to be progressing a lot the past few months, but like you...never any feedback from her as to what was really going in her head.
Until last evening when I got the same old bs....this after 3 months without a word about the marriage, the current sitch and honestly, being about the closest and most relaxed we have ever been with each other.
I am thinking that things could not get any better...all that is missing is a few words from her that let me know we are on the right track. Sure I would like to hear them...but man...her actions are so positive, I can wait, right??
What did I get???....her feelings haven't changed....she still doesn't trust that I have changed...the old me is still too fresh in her mind....she loves me but.....sorry, but all I heard was blah, blah, blah.
I feel like counseling and some real communication between us would really help, but maybe I'm wrong. She was not interested in the beginning, and since there has never been any commitment from her to work on the marriage, it has not been brought up since.
No advice, man...just a "I hear you". At least your wife is telling you she is on board and feels like things are getting better. I have been running blind for months now, assuming things were getting better and she seems to still be on square one, ready, willing and able to end the R.
NDS,
I understand completely and appreciate you chiming in. I just hate these game and the indecision on their part. It made complete sense at the beginning but after all these months its time to decide. Stay or go, work on it or end it, stop going along keeping the peace and seeing what happens. She knows what is happening she just does not want to commit fully, WHY?
Could it be a power thing, could it be that she still is not over the past. I don’t know but I really wish she would tell me or atleast go to MC.
Sorry your in the same boat as me, but if she is still with you and you are still being physical there has to be something there. What is preventing our W from taking that step and recommitting is beyond me but it is getting old quick.
