Hi Lost: It could definitely be God's plan. Right now, however, you have to focus on God's plan for you. It may be that you have much learning to do, and that the learning could take a long time. I do not think that telling your W about this website will do anything, except make her angry. Anger is a natural emotion, and you have to let her feel the anger before she can process it, and move to the next phase. All is not lost...but you do need to let this take the natural progression that God has planned. Continue to work on you.
A long time ago I posted a possible similarity, so I am going to post to you to help you understand where she may be.
You have a job. You have been there a long time. Your boss is a jerk, your co-workers are a pain. You have flirted with a change. Now, you have decided that after too much betrayal by your job, you are going to take it. You're not necessarily happy about it, but feel that there is just too much water under the bridge for you to trust anyone there.
You leave, and your now former boss comes to you and says he promises things will change, that he will set limits with some coworkers and get rid of others.
Do you believe him? What has the past shown? You have choices, but you are anxious about trusting this person again. So you decide to stick with the new job, and possibly see what the future brings.
You are the job. Your wife is the worker. Now, your job is to show your wife, rather than tell her, that things will be different. The words don't mean squat. The actions are what counts. Pushing her in one direction or another will push her out the door, possibly permanently. She has been hurt, and must find a way to trust again. She will be watching you, trust me.
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
