I ran across rejoicemarriageministries.org last night, and I found it to be very helpful. My question though, that I cannot seem to find on there...I have chosen to become a stander...I have LC with my W, because of the children...she is a Christian as well, do I let her know that I am standing for the marriage, or do I play as I am moving on like I have had suggested in other places?

I have been working on my relationship with God, ever since she left...I always tried to do this while we were married, but attacks from the devil always pulled me out before I could totally let go...I havr totally let go to God now...could this have been God's plan...the wife leaving like this to get my attention and finally get me to return to Him?

Also, being that she's a Christian, do I somehow maybe let it slip about the other website...do you feel that this may help for her to read some of the things that are there?