Hi This is my first posting but here goes with the history. Stupidly had an affair 3 years ago, husband found out, I ended it and we struggled on together for a couple of years. I then fell in love with H again and wanted to make the marriage work. At the same time he was thinking the opposite and left 15 months ago.
Not sure whether I should be applying LRT or 'acting as if'.
Married 23 years, four grown up kids. Lived separate but parellel lives for years basically either of us didn't put in enough effort, you only get out what you put in.
It was EA not sexual, H had become obsessed with exercise and his career. Tried to get through to him that he wasn't giving me any attention or love, to be fair I meanwhile focused on the kids and my job. EA person started by listening to me about my marriage probs but I took that to be love, more of a crush really.
No further proceeding have taken place H does not want D but doesn't want to reconcile. I feel a bit like I'm in limbo.
Read both the books and another by an English author - not sure if I can say who (is that allowed?).
Thanks for reading this
Me 48 H 49 T 26 years M 23 years D 22 and 21 years S 19 and 18 years Separated Dec 07
