Thanks, AIO, I need the kicking around. I will get over and catch up on your story.
In particular, look at how I was so emotionally investing in her. Look at how her behavior influenced mine. Not healthy and, dare I say, codependency. Look at how I encouraged bad behavior and gave her control me my emotions. I see that in you.
Originally Posted By: JonF
This part is sort of new to me, and very confusing because W just hints around that it's a PA, when it seems to be more of a buddies thing. She has been VERY open and honest about starting to date, so why get all secretive?
Like Gucci said, this is an A. The more the A escalates, the more secretive it will get. When W comes around that means R with OM is having probs. That is your opportunity to be "friends" just don't talk about the A. You need to start getting intuitive to your W’s ACTIONS.
Originally Posted By: JonF
However, I decided after that interchange that I wasn't going to do it anymore, and I told W this:
"Do not forward me any more texts from him. He does not know you or me or our kids or our lives."
Atta boy!!! I would have left the second sentance out. Don't "over share" your thoughts.
Originally Posted By: JonF
Any bonus points for that?
The bonus is your improvement of yourself. At a certain point, you'll be so interested in yourself that you won't care what W is doing.
