I have been doing a lot of thinking, and more reading, especially on the infidelity boards, and some other materials on affairs.
I do know that W went 2.5 years without even looking at another man - turned down guys that I know for sure that asked her out. I'm not sure that she feels what she is doing is "wrong" - although the attempts to justify it are a little extreme. OM just happens to have been married when she met, and they both played guitar, etc - so it might've started "innocently" - but don't they all start that way?
Anyway, I'm seeing so much conflicting advice that I'm still pretty dadburn confused. Lots say stay "friends" and you'll maybe win them over - others say put your foot down and don't tolerate it. Is it a personality thing based on W? Or is it a combination of both - make clear how wrong A is, and then be courteous when interaction is required because of kids?
I know it's patience - W will have to run out of things to say to OM, and right now OM is a shoulder to cry on. That's fine, and understood.
I guess I feel like there are only two options, and believe there's gotta be a better third option: Option 1: Be hard-core: do not accept it, file divorce, take down all pictures, take off ring.
Option 2: Smile, and get shat upon, and just be there through thick and thin (smells like cake-eating?)
