WAW - Possible MLC I need help, WAWs advice III

[FaithfulH]

LonelyD,

You're right...we've all felt (still feel) down at times...WAY down! I know you know to keep asking God what He wants you to get out of this....that is always #1. Beyond that, here are some things that helped me:

1) Find a confidante that you can sit with, pray with, talk with when you are down. I had some dear friends 5 minutes from my house who told me I could come to their house any time of day or night if I needed them. There were times I went to their house when they weren't home just to get out of my sitch and get to a "safe" place to pray and meditate.
2) Do stuff for yourself often. I got a massage every week and it was VERY therapeutic. You can probably find an inexpensive therapist that works out of their home which is what I did.
3) Look attractive. This will make you feel better. Get a haircut regularly, wear attractive clothes, shave every day. At all times, look like you are going out on a date. Personal hygiene can slip when you are in a funk....don't let it.
4) Watch what gets in your head through your eyes and ears. Listen to uplifting music...I like a lot of modern praise music....Nicole Nordemann, Sara Groves. Read stuff that helps you through. Here are some great books that helped me.

• "Wild At Heart" by John Eldredge
• "Fight for the Family" audiobook by T.D. Jakes
• "Facing Your Giants" by Max Lucado
• "Fruits of the Spirit" by Joyce Meyer
• "Journey of Desire" by John Eldredge
• "Waking the Dead" by John Eldredge
• "Sacred Romance" by John Eldredge
• "Captivating: Unveiling the Mystery of a Woman's Soul" by John and Stasi Eldredge

5) Focus on your kids. Now is a great time to spend lots of time with them (and you are). I rebuilt my relationship with my kids during our separation and it has helped us in tough situations since.
6) Get exercise daily. This can be a long walk or a grueling workout at the gym. Make sure you are doing something physical.
7) Set Goals according to S-P-I-E-S. Like 25yrsmlc I benefited greatly from talking to a DB coach who gave me this acronym. Set goals in each of the areas of Spiritual, Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Social. When you achieve them, set new ones.

Hope this helps LonelyD....