mojo, no problem. It's interesting to listen to others perspectives.
Thinking, it sounds like we both fell into the trap of thinking that we what we were doing was helping and supporting them to become successes. I felt that I worked my butt off to make all of H's dreams come true. What did I get in return? I finally got so tired of running behind him and continuing on with everything that he dropped, and he had moved on to his next dream. He told me that I never supported him in anything. So not true but it was his version and I had to listen to what he felt. I learned that I holding him up doesn't fix him.
Our 'night out' was nice. H was not talkative at all while we driving but once we met up with our friends he was his nice normal self. His cell phone went off during dinner and he apologized and said who it was and called them back later. I even caught him smiling at me while I was telling a funny story. Now if only we arrived home and went to bed together and......
Sunday we were home together, I asked about going to town together to get some things - and we did! We actually did a little shopping together. I know...hold me back...I nearly feel like a giddy teenager! So much of everything has been on hold for so long it's like the whole house needs updating. All we (I) bought though was the converter boxes for the tv's to keep working. When we got home H promptly installed them! I sure don't like the way it all works but I guess the government still has the power to keep herding us the direction they want.
Plucking away at tidying the house a little at a time. Last night I asked H if he would do chores for me, and he said he didn't mind doing chores and out he went. I better be careful I don't take advantage of that! Unfortunately H left a gate open and a pen of horses was out this morning!
Live your life while you are still living. Riding the trail less traveled.
