*Should I fight custody?*already signed sep.agr

[bright_new_day]

a deposition? hmm, not sure how that works. We have a sep. agreement all signed, he was whining because the cost of getting a L and filing would be as much as what we paid our expensive mediator, boo hoo.

I guess after being separated a for a year either party can go give a deposition, and there also has to be a "witness" deposition (my X had a co-worker go in). They both went to X's lawyer's office and gave their depositions that we had been separted a year with no reconcilliation. The lawyer prepared the final decree of divorce and it was all sent over to the courts. My lawyer also got a copy which she sent to me to approve. It was held up a little on my end because I hsd decided to go back to my maiden name, so I had to get that paperwork together, which included a copy of my birth certificate. X was so antsy about getting it done quickly that when I didn't immediately respond he had a court date set, but my paperwork got there and it all went to the judge. The judge simply signs it, we weren't even there, and voila you're no longer married. Part of me wanted to force him to go into court and face me to get the divorce, but it would have just cost me more money and as f*&%$d up as he is, he would have still said it was all my fault and what I wanted, so I just sent in my papers. And then I checked the court case online regularly and found out one day that I had been divorced for about four days. And about a week later X married OW.

I do pray that the kids get along, dont' get me wrong, but it still hurts, that after all those years and after all the crap he's put me through he gets to play family with my kids and her. I know this feeling will pass, that I need to hang on to my faith and to the time my kids and I have together, I know it will be alright.

Yep, yep, been there, done that. I know the feelings well. They don't deserve to be a family with your kids, but it is what it is. And I believe that no matter how much they may appear to be the happy new family, at the end of the day they still have to face what they did, and that will never erased, so how happy can they truly be? They had to destroy others to "win" their happiness. I wouldn't want that price. I wouldn't want to live with that legacy over my relationship.