Hi
This is my first posting but here goes with the history.
Stupidly had an affair 3 years ago, husband found out, I ended it and we struggled on together for a couple of years. I then fell in love with H again and wanted to make the marriage work. At the same time he was thinking the opposite and left 15 months ago.

Not sure whether I should be applying LRT or 'acting as if'.

any comments would be useful.

Thanks


married 23 years
4 grown up kids