Quoting shinybear: No, I'm aghast at how my behaviours can come across to CJ!! I have to be HYPER-alert to these things. THIS is what he was talking about when he said "you are controlling"...I'm really only NOW getting some of this!!!
I had such a biased view of our M...I thought it was quite equitable, we always seemed to agree on most things...but here I was throwing these "zingers" and eroding CJ's self-esteem and love for me at the same time!
Been there...am doing that!
It's amazing to me how a simple sentence can evoke such a sense of control.
The sometimes scary part for me is that there are times when I hear what I've just said and I'm appalled...really appalled because of how controlling or undermining or dismissive it is...all this towards the man I adore.
Cripes!
I'm so excited for you guys that you're talking about this stuff!
Sage
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
