Ignore the affair or throw him out?

[pearlharbr]

A little cross-posting--I said this on my thread in Newcomers but would love to get input from anyone here as well.

As of right now I have decided to tell BF that if he continues A with OW then I want him to leave. I would love to hear your thoughts on how to word that exactly.

Here's what I'm thinking, but it is after 3am...

"I have told you before that I find your affair with OW unacceptable. It is disrespectful to me and our life together. I can't stop you from cheating but I refuse to be lied to anymore. I love you very much, and don't want to break up. I am willing to work on any and all issues, including mine, but I simply cannot do it while you are having an affair. If you choose to continue this affair I want you out of this house."

Thoughts?

The risk I am taking is that he will have the locks changed while I am out of town and I will end up being the one on the street. Not probable, but anything is possible these days. So I can either have this conversation Monday night before I leave for SF (early Tues morn) or I can save it for when we are both back in town 1/4.