Im glad to see you are still hanging around in piecing.
Quote: In my mind I was asking because to ME, relaxation does not involve work-related reading, but he made it very clear that he enjoys this stuff, thus it’s NOT work. And even if it WERE, who the hell am I to tell him how to relax at camp!!!?
I would have to agree with CJ on this one. Example: My XW reads all of the time. I on the other hand, do not like to read novels. On Sundays, I like to watch football. It was almost every Sunday that W would be setting on the couch reading a book, so I would switch it over to a football game, and she would comment on it... "Do we have to watch this?"
I never understood why it bothered her so much that I wanted to watch football, if she was reading a book. Football was relaxing to me, and reading was relaxing to her.
On the same note, you were reading a book. CJ decided to do what he wanted to do. In no way was it directly affecting you, so (in my opinion) it shouldnt have mattered what he was doing.
One of my major complaints in my M was XW's nagging. And this would have been a good example of what I meant by that. I had lots of hobbies when we got married. Eventually I had none. Why? Because I didnt like hearing a bunch of sh!t about it. W would decide she was going to take a nap. "Ok, Im going to go play golf then." "You're going to play golf. Why?" "What else do you want me to do, sit here and watch TV while you're sleeping?"
Why did she care? I could get home from golfing before she woke up, and it was still thrown in my face, or brought up later that I got to play golf that day.
I think most guys would agree. If it doesnt directly affect you, then dont worry about it. Now if CJ wanted to set up and play the drums next to you while you read, then you might have something to discuss, but if you dont think he is relaxing the "right way", well, its really not something for you to decide.
Hope this isnt too harsh
FLoyd The grass is always GREENER over the septic tank.
