I think that Puppy has the best response. You are validating how she is feeling without debating whether it is true or not. I also agree that you need to discover her LL. My H is words of affirmation, buy mine is acts of service and I discovered that I was expressing love in the wrong language for a very long time. Rectifying that is so difficult.
I think she is just trying to convince herself that's true to justify her own feelings.
