Oh, Puppy, Karen, or Sonshyn, what would either of you say to your spouse if they kept telling you that they did not feel that you loved them either?
Well, it would depend on your W's love language I guess. Have you read "The Five Love Languages"? That and DR are my 2 favorite books!
The author says that people have different ways of feeling/expressing love: through Gifts, Words of Affirmation, Physical Touch, Quality Time, or Acts of Service. I think it becomes a problem when people don't express love in the love language that your W enjoys. For example, after reading the book I realized I'm Words of Affirmation, I need compliments and praise, and my H's love language is Acts of Service. He would do Acts of Service all the time for me and I didn't understand that's how he expresses love, and the way he prefers to get love I think also.
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Anyhow, I just don't know the right way to respond to her when she says those things. Do you think she really believes that or that she's just trying to make herself feel better about the way she feels about me?
Maybe both? My H was always saying early on I just needed him, but didn't really love him. I have to admit I thought I did really need him and couldn't live without him, but I also loved him. But if you can figure out which is her love language and express it through that way. I mean it sounds like your love language is maybe Gifts? But probably hers is one of the others, and you might want to express love in that way. Karen
