Ok, my couple hours later review of my SECOND conversation, my own personal pep talk to myself.
1. I was calm and reasonable. I HAVE offered W dissolution and divorce, and she is the one being very weird about it, brings in OM to "defend" her. What the heck? I'm not pursuing, I'm asking for closure, and she gets mad about pursuing? 2. I made OM look really stupid, and although that will get her hackles up, I like it. Then, he made it worse, and came back with a REALLY lame and dorky response. One thing W likes about me is that I'm really funny, and this guy just shouldn't even try. 3. I stood up to her/him, and said I didn't want to hear him because he didn't know anything. Just like that I diminished his role, and I won't respond to anything she says about him again. 4. Discovered something very key: W said "You don't respect me". I don't know for sure why she thinks this, but it's good to her clearly and honestly state how she feels - she usually just clams up, and I need to find out why this is, and really show her its not true.
I read something in a post that I liked - it said most As aren't about looks or body - but about how OM/OW makes you FEEL. I need to find out what this A is about - it's definitely not looks, body, or personality.
Anyway, appreciate feedback, I'm mostly just journaling to myself - I don't expect anyone to make much sense of this!
