OK, had a couple hours to digest, and I see some things I should have done differently.
1. Didn't validate her feelings, but turned them back in her face. I think I could've done better while still standing firm. 2. I brought up the past - instead of redirecting to the future 3. Cursed, and showed anger 4. Kind of whined about being exhausted and wanting to be happy - instead of just saying I AM going to be happy.
I also did glean some positive things: 1. She showed emotion about us, instead of indifference 2. She pointed out positives about OM - this gives me something to go on now. I had no idea what she saw in him - I don't think there are many positives, but it looks like it boils down to him being a good listener. Now I can be better! 3. I didn't respond to unkind words except to stand up for myself 4. She would never say that he was her choice, she wanted to be with him, he was better than me - the only positive thing she said was he was sweet/shy/nice.
Sigh, this is gonna take me a month to figure out!
