Sandi's in Piecing and it's getting better

[sandi2]

Hi Jay, you must have been talking about AmyC. Yes, I remember that post very well. Everyone that posted to me back then was so helpful, but AmyC and imLin, were my two angents from God that helped me tremdously. Amy had been through what I had, plus more and imLin had been the LBW of a WAH in MLC so I was getting help from both sides. They helped save my life, I truly believe. As I stayed on board, others joined in a over time, my support group of friends was really great. I just think of everyone as family now. That is why I want you to say here, Jay, regardless of how things go in the M, okay? You still need the support of people here. AmyC is still standing for her M after all these years. I could not have done it.....I would have closed the door long ago, and she came close, but her heart belongs to him and she can't give up hope. I admire her spunk, I'll tell you that much! imLin waited three years for her H to come out of MLC! I'm sure you probably read what she posted. Those two women have probably helped more folks than anyone I know since I've been here. They don't post as much I don't think as they use to, but they are still around.

There have been sooooo many people in the boat you are in, sweetie, and understand the pain you are going through. Even though I am from the opposite side of the fense, I know you are hurting so badly and so angry, frustrated and all types of emotions going around inside of you. That is why I hope you won't leave us. There are many people who are still here whose M did not make it, but they support others. Just like Puppy, when he was going to leave b/c his wife and he decided to D, so many people begged him not to leave b/c he still knew what worked and what didn't when it come to DBing. It's just that after all they had been through and even after she went back to him, the attraction was gone and he could not force her to be attracted to him. Anyway, he sure knew how to bust up an affair, I'll hand him that much! He believes in tough love and he doesn't have to use near as many words as i do to get the message across.....LOL.

There will always be a place here for you and we want you to be a part of our family, so please continue to hang around.....until you feel that you need to leave and move on.

I'm glad that reading my original posts helped you in some way to maybe understand the crazy mixed up mind of a WAW. I don't know if it was a real MLC, but it was a crisis.....for sure. I also wished that others would come here for help. There are a few over in the "I'm Thinking About Leaving" forum that test the waters. Unfortunately, not many respond to that forum and I don't know why. Also, a few bitter LBS have been rather ugly to WAS that would venture to come on and after a rather scorching post from a LBS, they would leave and not return. Very sad! I think women leave quicker than the men. But, I grant you that they are reaching out for help....just like I was when I came. I might not have wanted to hear what I was being given, but had enough sense to know that is what I needed. But, a person has to want to be helped to come here and to have the guts to stay.

You've been a good friend to me and I am just selfish enough to want to keep you around. You would be surpirsed how many lives you can touch, Jay, even while you are going through your own brand of pain. I hope you can find peace soon. I know you are so concerned for that precious little girl. She is in my heart and prayers.....all of you are.

Talk to you later.

Sandi