Hi glam-
I'm just catching up with what is going on with you. I hope you were able enjoy your visit with your sister when she finally made it there. Sorry your H didn't make it over Christmas but at least he stopped by Christmas Eve and took your sister back to the airport.

By digging up 3 year old painful emails, your H looking for excuses to keep you at a distance and justify his behavior. My H does similar things to keep from getting too close. I went back and re-read some of my old posts here and it is so obvious how my H makes excuses to avoided spending time (especially holidays) with me even though we are supposably trying to work on our M. Your H does the same. I get so tired of the excuses. GAL and not dwelling on what they do and don't do does really help...although I must admit it is difficult because they tell us and in someways show us that they are working on the M. Don't get me wrong...I do believe they trying to work on the M but when they get too close, they just find ways to distance themselves again.

I hope 2009 brings you much peace and happiness.