In so many ways, the positives that would have saved our marriage (had he 'come back') are still there, in our relationship now. My patience, his compassion, my faith in him being a solid person, his faith in me to make decisions about the kids without him, etc. Those things that are positive about you and your wife now will remain, no matter what goes on from here out.
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And the funny thing is, I think that any relationship that we both have apart from each other is going to have this 'ex' issue. The good relation that I'll keep with the wife.
Maybe *I'm* still foggy about this, but I feel I'll never find something as amazing with someone else. Ok, maybe it'll be amazing, but it won't be as deep. I know I partly feel this because no one will ever share the bond or love I have for my children other than their father. xH has said similar things to me (some of it I don't believe, like "You'll always come first, and if another woman has trouble with us being best friends, then its see ya to the woman"), and I know he has meant those things.
Your wife and her health. Thank goodness. Maybe deep down, in her subconscious, she doesn't feel she 'deserved' to heal when she is such a 'bad person' and ruined her marriage (not ME saying this, mind you, but trying to give you her possible thoughts of herself). I hope she can eventually see that she is a good person and can find happiness.
