Which way are you going?

[sleeper]

"W contacts me when she wants something, other than that nothing."

Seems fairly common. Mine definately leans on me for needs but I've also experienced brief periods of her acting like a friend and contacting me "to chat." That's the confusing part.

OM does very little for her, she seems to do as much or more for him. I don't know what the hold is he has on her and may not want to know.

Truth is stranger than fiction.......

I've been changing the oil in X's car all along and she has let me borrow it to take trips with our kids. Recently when in her car there was a recipt on the seat from when SHE TOOK OM'S CAR TO HAVE THE OIL CHANGED!

Time for me to do much less for her, regardless.

That might also prove to be the nudge your W needs, Dave.