Separated and adjusting #2

[Choosing_Life]

Just be, buddy, just be... easiest advice in the world to give, hardest advice to take. That sadness IS trying to tell you something, but it will take time to know exactly what. The neurophysiology of love is not well-understood, but what you are experiencing is a real physical phenomenon occurring as a result of changes in your brain and its interactions with your body... and that phenomenon is a good thing. I think it might be called growth. I struggle with the time issue and the patience issue constantly... how long is too long? What if she's just "playing" me? What if I'm just "playing" myself? It's easy to drown in a sea of what-if's.

Take it easy on yourself, soothe yourself, do something nice for yourself. Treat yourself the way you would treat a friend who was experiencing sadness in their life.

Sadness is OK... it is one of the strongest motivators for change we have. In a way, it is like anger without the fear.

I am sad with you, for you and for me and for all the people struggling with love on this board. Be gentle with yourself. Perhaps instead of viewing your situation as a fork in the road, a view that demands you make a decision, you could look at it as a bend in the road... you don't know what's on the other side, so maybe you just need to slow down and give yourself time to relax into the unknown.

I am playing soccer today, and I am really looking forward to it. What are you going to do to help yourself feel better?

Peace.