I know blue isn't the traditional Christmas color but I like it!! It sounds as if things are going well for you. Enjoy the holidays, you deserve it. Merry Christmas [/color]
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
What a nice Christmas we had! It was much better than the Limbo Christmas of '07. We are at peace with each other and that's says volumes. I still miss him, but its a detached feeling and doesn't sting too much.
It was fabulous watching Christmas unfold through the girls' eyes. Magical!
xH worked a ton and missed out seeing the girls open gifts. I saved a few for him when he stops by tonight. He has been odd this week, being flippant with me, then when I give him space, he seeks me out. I am sure he is dealing with his stuff, as I am dealing with mine. He calls almost every night after the girls go to bed (it started last week, when D4 had a bad cold, he never used to call) to check on them. This is soooo odd. We end up talking for quite awhile. I feel like he is letting down his guard with me, and that's good. Good in the sense that we can keep up with the girls, nothing else.
Former OW's H called on Christmas eve, left a VM for me saying he was hoping my holidays were good and that he was thinking about me, to call if I wanted. That was very nice of him.
Thanks Gypsy, so much. I am definately feeling more 'good' than 'bad' these days. I feel very alone raising the kids, but I don't feel overwhelmed by it, make sense?
One thing I forgot to mention, xH came by on Christmas night and the girls gave him 2 small gifts I had purchased for them (marinades for grilling and cooking). xH said later "Take these back, I didn't get you anything and now I feel awful". I told him that was not my intention, that I am not hurt he didn't get me anything (in the past I would have been, but surprisingly I am not) that it meant nothing other than a gift for a friend, no hidden messages.
He called back later to say again to take them back, he felt weird taking them. I told him it was fine, I am fine. I won't make that mistake again, never meant to make him squirm, guilt him, or anything. Really, I bought them weeks ago and never worried once about the implications. He left them at my house, I won't say another word about them, and I put them away in our generic gift box (last minute gifts for people lol).
Amazing... and strange. Then again, like you said, he's let you know what works for him. For spouse's birthday I gave him a card. That was two weeks after he moved out. Nothing since.
While Christmas shopping it was just a tad strange not to look for things for him.. but that lasted only a nostalgic minute or two.
Hmmm... your ex-husband didn't want marinade.. did he think you wanted to 'grill' him... yuk yuk yuk. Humor!
Just wanted to see how YOUR sitch has been going lately. Maybe a glimpse into my future?
You do seem to be doing so well. I wish I could have my girls full time, but I'll take the 50/50. Could be worse, I suppose.
You know, I grew up with Santa bringing unwrapped toys. Of course, the gifts directly from mom and dad were wrapped and usually given on Christmas eve, with the rest of the family gathering.
On Christmas morning, stuff out of the packages and not wrapped. Besides, to me, the kids would figure out sooner that they may have recognized the wrapping paper.
And easier for me in the long run. No wrapping, but hiding and getting rid of the packaging posed a little bit different issue.
I got the wife a gift too. I didn't expect one from her, and she didn't disappoint. It wasn't meant to make her feel bad. She accepted it, with a little guilty face, but she accepted it. I wouldn't know how to bring it up at this point. Better left alone, I suppose. It was given in love, nothing else.
And Happy belated to your little one, too.
Me 47, WW 38 SS18, D15, D10
Good Bye Girl. No longer SAYING she's moving out. GBG moved out 8-1-08
"I have now decided to enjoy life instead of figure it out."
