I am not talking about being the dominate macho male. I don't even use the term *alpha male* b/c of I believe that it has a negative sexist side.
No one likes the agressive macho jerk strutting his feathers and challenging other males to fight. At least I do not. That is being a little boy really. Think governor of Illinois.
A man being a man is being all he can be while embracing his masculine. The key attributes for me are integrity and honor, the strength to be assertive and do what is right all the time, courage to face fear head on, respect and compassion for others, loyality, quiet leadership by example and action, and perserverance.
Women should do the same but embracing their feminine. You can use different words but the concept is the same.
It is all about the *inner game*, how you feel deep down about you. When a person has their inner game on track, the outter game follows.
To be the person who "has class" or "has style". In all they do.
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So back to my question, to both of you now - what are you doing to change today?
Good question. I am working through my issues and looking within to find solutions. Remember, men are solution oriented. And with my INTJ personality, I need a plan before I charge.
But you are correct, I need to get out too. My life will not change by itself unless three spirits visit me on Christams eve. Yes, GAL is part of the equation.
But it is not in itself an answer. I can get involved in many things: hobbies, volunteering, even dating. I would stay busy but in reality, without working the real issues, it is only avoidance behavior. Staying busy but feeling empty, dating but feeling alone.
No thanks.
Staying busy and getting out all the time is no substitute for real happiness.
This is all a process. I choose to focus on my inner issues now, confront my demons, and then my GAL plan to support me.
My whole life plan will only be successful if I approach it the right way.