Well, I do know for sure.. I have a print out of the boarding passes for the trip they took in Dec. I have copies of emails. He told me he was going to b.f. to go hunting...but he went to providence with her.
I already confronted him..he just talks in circles. He will never man up to anything. Just says I told you we were getting a divorce. I said yeah..you said a lot of things. But thing was..this is his high school sweetheart. They met up again back in Aug of 07..Sept he says he is unhappy...Feb he says he wants a divorce..in May I find out he was having an affair with her, July he says he isn't talking to her anymore..only on occasion, but that I didn't understand. Now I find all this info to show that yes indeed they have been talking and it has been going on.
So no I am not surprised. I am pissed, because he lied about it. I asked numerous times if he was still talking to her. He had EVERY opportunity to tell me yes.. Afterall he "stated his intentions" he wanted the divorce. what did he have to lose by just telling the truth. I would have stopped loving him and trying to fix things much sooner. There is NO going back now.
I know I will NEVER trust him again, I don't think I will ever be able to talk to him or stand the sight of him.