I guess it's this, and I could be way off base - I honestly don't think the A is serious. I think it is someone to talk to, essentially. Once it sinks in that W is going to go from a part-time mom of 2 to a mom of 5, things will go down hill from there, and fast, and I'm only picking the easy stuff!
Well, here is your punch in the face ...
Stop guessing at your W's R with OM. How do u know it will end badly? Maybe she thinks you were that big of a jerk where D kids is a better option? It is a WAS. Logical isn't exaclty the foundation of her thinking.
Your W is/had an A because of what she was missing from you. This goes back to working on you. It will be this way until your a better option.
Of course you married her because of many friend qualities. What about W now? That was my question.
Quit guessing and get back to work. If R fails w/ OM, are you ready?
