Well, thus is the question. What happened in our M is that we let the friendship lapse - got busy starting a business, etc you know the drill.
I want more than ANYTHING that if R comes back that it starts with core friendship - I would refuse anything physical, etc without it.
I guess it's this, and I could be way off base - I honestly don't think the A is serious. I think it is someone to talk to, essentially. Once it sinks in that W is going to go from a part-time mom of 2 to a mom of 5, things will go down hill from there, and fast, and I'm only picking the easy stuff!
She is also about to start working 40 hours a week, and also going to RN school full-time - with OM an hour away, good luck!
I'm staying completely out at this point - she is on break so has plenty of time to chat and do fun stuff with OM, especially since I have kids 50% of the time.
As for your question - she has many qualities that I would look for in a friend - wouldn't have married her if not. Don't worry, I will not be a "friend" while she has anything to do with OM, however, I can be "nice".
I know I'm sort of babbling and rambling, but I guess I don't know what to do with myself. I thought I would lose my mind with anger and disgust knowing about OM - even considering that it could very well be PA instead of just 'friends'. I thought this would end it all, emotionally I would have closure, I would cease to love W, and so on.
I know I probably need a punch in the eye, but man...
