W wants us to be "friends" - I guess a way of getting her off the hook for what she's doing, but not having to have any consequences. I have told her that "friends" don't do to each other what she's doing, and it's what selfish people say to make themselves feel better about breaking up a family (not her favorite thing to hear).
Where is the line between letting her feel like she's got the best of both worlds? Cake-eating? Is it OK to let her feel like that in order to allow a friendship flourish, and wait out the A? Most WAS I have seen on this board suggest growing a pair, and standing up, and being hard-core. Which actually, in review, I have been! So maybe that's it - be abundantly clear that any sort of A is wrong, even EA, and then be nice? My only breakdown occurs when it impacts kids - I just lose it there.
