Ok, I feel like I know have my thoughts together. Attorney said we have a very good case on marriage ending 2.5 years ago because ML ended then, and W moved into a separate room, opened a separate checking account, etc. This will protect my business, reduce alimony and child support, etc. Also, W's A helps me a lot too - adultery is still considered bad here!
Anyway, I'm into new territory now. I have completely detached - doing very well, only occasional comments for past 2-3 weeks have been about kids or illness. D8 brought up staying all night situation with OM, and I asked W to confirm, and she would neither confirm nor deny.
::side note:: P.S. I love this - W started to tell me that OM's W "liked her" and I cut her off, and said, "I really don't want to hear your attempts to justify this situation - just do what you're gonna do." Hee hee, she immediately shut up. ::end side note::
Anyway, what matters to me is balance. I went over to the affairs board for awhile, and I've read some different things.
1. You cannot work on R while OM is involved 2. You should still be a friend 3. GAL like crazy - done!
The one I'm struggling with is #2 - how do you balance between being a friend and appeasement? W is being very friendly but in a sort of distant way - even after the PA question yesterday.
I understand A's usually die on their own, and the fact that OM is married, has 3 kids that W would have to start taking care of (5 total), lives hour away, and is TOTALLY not W's type - but still, I have to wait until it blows over. (I am of course prepared for finality)
Is it enough that I have told W that A is wrong, and I have explained to D8? How do I show her that I'm "there", but I don't approve of relationship? Maybe I need to jump over to that forum for a bit, but I hate to do it!
