FG Snodderly is right. What does a C know that God doesn't know? All of this takes time and lots of it. It's been over 2 yrs for me and h and he is just starting to come around.
Time has no bearing on whether they return. It's when they heal and deal with their issues that makes a difference.
Don't bring up D unless that is what you want. Be still and let God. Your h is holding onto anger just like mine is.
Good things can happen, it just takes time.
Me 50 H 42 S 22 S 9 D 7 M 12 T 17 H moved out 8/2006 H moved home 1/2007 for 3 weeks H moved home 5/2011 for good
"Learn from yesterday ~ Live for today ~ And hope for tomorrow"