Livin4ME, the others have said it all, it takes time and just when you think you've got it beat, it jumps up to bite you in the butt again! Don't worry, it's normal and especially at this time of year. One way I dealt with my anger was keeping focused on making the best of the situation for my kids. If I let loose at STBX every time my anger arose my kids would end up the victims, to her it would just be another confirmation as to why she didn't want me anymore (not that anger problems had anything to do with our S, just to be clear). Now, because I have been able to deal with my hurt and anger to a large degree, I was able to spend Xmas with my kids and my STBX. Yes, we celebrated together. We had a great day as a family, in fact, I slept over on Christmas Eve so I'd be there when the kids awoke. In the afternoon we went to my parents, again as a family, to celebrate there too. Now, I have no idea whether such an arrangement would be good or desirable for you but I only bring it up to show that the anger can be put to rest and better days can lie ahead. Hang in there!
