Jeff you are doing good! Don't worry about the comment, you don't really know what that means today.
My h said things like I can never come home. Now he is not home, but just said the other day he thought we could work things out and asked me to be patient with him.
I don't know if going dim or dark is the answer either. I did all that and found the best for my situation was to love unconditionally regardless of how h responded.
Be kind and loving. No R talks and just love from a distance. Trapt is right stay busy, so you don't have to think to much.
Aren't you guys really good at staying busy?
Me 50 H 42 S 22 S 9 D 7 M 12 T 17 H moved out 8/2006 H moved home 1/2007 for 3 weeks H moved home 5/2011 for good
"Learn from yesterday ~ Live for today ~ And hope for tomorrow"