Divorce is a piece of paper. You do what you are doing and what you need to do to be the best person you know. You need to limit your conversations with her. she is using you for a sounding board it sounds like. she feels bad in one breath and justifies in the other. Misery loves company.
I am also having a terrible time. rescued her twice on christmas, ran out of gas then got a flat. She is bouncing checks she wrote to buy xmas presents and thought she got paid this week, its not until next week. I have asked God to tell me when this will end and now I see serious burden (reality) being thrust upon her. She owes a double car paymetn, overdrawn fees at the bank, 130 for car ins that I will not give in to and cover the checks she wrote. And now has to buy at least one tire for her car, there's about 125.00. Her father really laid into her Xmas eve, I wasn't part of it or near it, I had already left.
All this is very hard. I write you this because I am living it. the D word has not surfaced. Tax time she will get another shot in the ass, I am filing single head of household. she walked and my money support this house. I know she will ask me to file jointly and split the money, wrong answer. She will then ask me to do her taxes, annnmmmmmm, wrong answer. I have to think that far ahead. I wish this would end by then, but it is 5 weeks away and she shows no signs of coming back to me right now. Keep the faith, I am here for you. Just try to minimize your conversations with her, believe nothing she says and only half of what you see. Justification is her poison, forgiveness, the cure..
