It's Complicated! Part 2

[glamgirl]

25 yrs thanks for that great story. I do hear what you are saying. I think the big issue for me is it is easier to walk away when you decide to have NC or limit your interactions and you basically go on with your life without h.

It is much harder, when you do things with h. He comes over about 5-6 days a week. We go places together with the kids. We are in MC. We go on dates. We have sex, yeah I like that part. We are starting to make decisions together. It's like we are together except h lives elsewhere.

He is not telling me he wants a D, he is just telling me he needs time to process through his anger and he said he is healing from everything that has happened.

I have made huge progress with my h. It was a mere year ago that my h was pretty much checked out. I like to think we are in the process of reconciliation. At first, my thoughts were you needed to be home to reconcile, but that idea is slowly changing for me.

You are right I need to make sure I am GAL. I am, but even that is a little difficult when h is here almost daily. I do know that I WILL be fine with or without my h, but I would prefer to make things work with h.

As far as my ex, I did love my ex at one point and would have done anything for him. I tried so hard to get him into rehab, but finally had to close the door to that M. It was too much for me to bare, but when I left that door was closed for good never to look back. That is the difference. It was easier to go on when I knew I couldn't or wouldn't go back.