What really stood out in your recent post was that your h had to announce to your sister that he thought you were mad at him. Now why would he do that? A part of me thinks he is so seeking attention and wanting someone else to validate what he is thinking as if to say, See, I told you so..............
I can't really get into his head and none of us can but he seems to have very deep issues that a professional has to step in and help him sort out.
All you can do is be kind and show unconditional love and let him be when he goes into hibernation.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19