It's Complicated! Part 2

[25yearsmlc]

GG,

NOT saying to work it out when there's addiction/abuse. Nope, not saying that. Just saying you once LOVED your exh, (according to you). Your heart got broken and things fell apart, BUT you survived.

Indeed, You moved on, and found love and happiness. Part of it was probably that you didn't obsess and by your own admission you let it go and moved forward for your sake, and the sake of your son. What's the diff now??=== as it relates to moving on and letting go? Oh, you WANT a recon? Yeah, I get that...big time. But pursuing has not worked. Obsessing has not worked. I've forgotten how long this has gone on and honestly am not that sure what the heck your h is so angry about. You don't want to go over that specifically and that's fine. We're left to guess....but my assumptions, and that's all they are, lead me to believe this anger of his is a lot of projecting and a bit self indulgent. My guess? You guys had issues including your own "stuff", he cheated, made you madder than hell and you blew up, and both hurt each other. His "crime" is adultery and yours is smaller but maybe more numerous...don't know who is "ahead" on the score board and don't care. Either move on (this goes for HIM mostly) or STOP the M. Seriously if he cannot let go of what you said and did but YOU can...it's just as if the reverse were occurring.

HEre's a story I once heard that helped me spiritually, and I'll post it elsewhere if I can.

The world heard God speak and he said the "World will end in 7 days". People with sins changed colors; jealous people had green faces. Adulterers had "A"s on their faces... Everyone's sins were publicly known and politicians wore bags over their heads. People were in disbelief but they all heard the voice. The next day, the voice said "The World will end in days." People went nuts. They prayed, they self flagellated, they cried. Some stole and hid. Some went to confession over and over. Days passed. Finally only one day was left and a couple held each other. The man had an A on his forehead, as he'd broken his marital vows. The wife had the green of envy and bitterness around her mouth as she had often said biting things.

But the man said to his wife, as they faced certain doom, "You know you are the only woman I ever loved. I'm sorry about the "A.' And the wife said, "I made mistakes too and I forgive you, do you forgive me for my critisizms and resentments?" The husband nodded and they hugged each other tight, waiting for the end....Suddenly the A on the man's face disappeared and the woman's face cleared as well. Others noticed and the word got out that the way to avoid certain doom...was to forgive. The world was saved.

j-


You've been miserable until lately as you've started to GAL...