WOW! You have been thru a lot with your sitch, you sister & your other family members.
I'm like your sister, I don't know if I'll ever be the same but I'm trying really hard, but it has been so quick. I know their marriage was rushed, my xSIL told me & I also know she trick my x with the date to rush him, I looked on the calendar & that was not the only date they could do it which is what she said. I also saw their wedding pictures, a friend of mine found them on line & as well as I know him the smile & everything about him was fake. It actually made me feel good, I looked better than she did, not that I'm saying anything about me but she looked old! MWG saw their pictures & also saw a picture of my x, me & our dogs. Another person who doesn't even know us saw both pictures & spoke of how relaxed he was in our pictures & not in the wedding. Oh well, I saw them the beginning of Nov & I don't look at them, I've only looked twice. I'm so sorry your sister went thru all she did, that must have been horrible for her. At least my divorce went on a little longer but only b/c I fought him to get alimony & the house among other things. I do keep hoping I'll hear from him but I'm not counting on it right now.
You're right, 5 & 8 years is a long time but I told my ex in a letter that I wrote to him before the divorce that if we tried our marriage would be better than ever. He was mad at me at the time so nothing else was said or done.
I'm working on the PMA & GAL, I promise I'll do my best & I really do appreciate you posting to me!!!!! You have some great advice!!!
You are right "Cheers to the New Year for all of us"!!
I wish we could all ring in the New Year together.
