I would agree with your above post LonelyD. I have come to the same point. I would like to help people that are going through the same pain, just knowing how much this hurts makes me want to help others. I love my wife very deeply with all my heart. She is in the exact same boat as your wife from all that I have seen. She has friends that she thinks are really her friends but in time she will find out other wise. I figure it is just a matter of time before she does fall hard but when who knows when, however I would like to be there for her when she does fall. I keep praying for her for God is in control, he will not give up on her. The test for me is to have the strength to not give up as well. Everytime I have prayed for God to give me a sign he has not let me down, and some of these signs have amazed me just blown me away, but it lets me know that God is in contol and he is still working in our marriage. I journal these things and was reading back over the past few months, it's good that I have been writing things down cause it is amazing just how much he is doing, so I am sure he is doing much more than what I can see. Here is a quote "Pray hardest when it is hardest to pray." Charles H. Brent. I think our wives need our prayers more now than ever and more than they know. A lot of thier bad reactions to us are the battlefield in thier mind with the Holy Spirit speaking to them and satan constantly lieing to them and making them believe and feel comfortable about thier bad dicisions. They live in a fog and don't realize it, when they do hit rock bottom this will be why they hit so hard and wonder so many why's and questions and what have they done. I would like to be there to love and support my wife, she is going to need it more than ever. I pray that she seeks the Lord and then I hope I am there for her when she needs the help. Praise God.