I have been posting on the Newcomers and pretty much in denial that there was any A going on with my H. I think I have finally come to accept that something inappropriate is happening, and I am still so incredibly hurt.
It started a little over 2 months ago. Increasing text messages, ILYBNILWY, lost weight, dressing differently. The story is pretty much the same as most. I have found some IM messages that sound wrong, but I really don't know if there is any PA. When I asked H, he denies and states that they are just good friends. IDK, but what else can I do.
I read DR and have trying to implement as many of the principles as I can. We are still living in the house together, still sleeping in the same bed, and still living as H and W. He has said that everyday he battles with staying or leaving, but has made no moves to move yet. I don't think he can afford to leave, and is very fearful and feeling guilty about what it will do to the kids. His family has already said how dissappointed they are that he is acting unhappy in the marriage. If he did leave, he would have to deal with their dissappointment as well. A hard position for him to be in, but funny thing is that I think it strengthens my position.
I have started acting "as if" everything is great. I am trying to be his friend. I have stopped asking so many questions about what he is doing. He has more freedom to go and do things (which he has been taking advantage of). C
Christmas went very well. Almost to well. We spent with my family on EVE and his family on Christmas day.
I am trying to focus on one day at a time. this forum is so supportive too. Any advise is very welcome.
