Oh yeah...I heard the "we haven't been married for a long time" speech too. Everytime I would try to go over what went wrong and want to fix it ..that would be one of the usual comments.
You sound like you are doing a GREAT job detaching. I agree that I have to do the same. I knew my H was going to call today to discuss his sister. So I didn't call him. I waited he called. He asked me a few questions and that was it. No big conversation. I just said goodbye and hung up. I was SO tempted to call him back because I started to think of a million little things I wanted to say just to keep him on the phone, but I knew I had to let go.
I felt good about it. But I am at home by myself today and all weekend. I can't get ahold of my friends. Some were working today and I left a message or two. I don't have a whole lot of friends down where I live. I have them all spread out so it makes it kind of hard when I want to go out. Besides they have families too and most are busy still with visiting relatives that came into town.
So I am kind of bored. I am just hanging out. I haven't gotten up the nerve to go out to the bars etc by myself yet. I will go shopping, movies, etc.. but going out on a Friday night alone just makes me even more depressed.
As far as you and your wife..I applaud you. I think you should continue doing what you are. I know it will be hard esp. if she has OM right now. He will seem like a bowl of cherries to her, even though that is a facade. Just the newness and excitement tends to make them think what they are doing to us the LBS is jusitified and validated. My H did that last May. It was really hard. Now as far as I know there isn't another person in his life, but he would be really good at hiding it right now if there was.
As long as you are feeling good about you. Keep it up.
