Jon, I removed my W from all joint accounts long before she dropped the bomb. I knew something was up; so I started protecting myself. So, I think that removing her is warranted. Otherwise, you run the risk of her using family money to underwrite her R with the OM.
The key, I'd check with local laws before preventing her from entering the marital home. I can't do that here in KY.
I also have heard typical spew that we are "technically divorced". W has listed herself as "single" on dating websites and her FB page. Currently, she has a new OM and has listed herself at "in a relationship" on her FB page. It's a long road bro; I've been in this sitch for almost three years.
