I let H know my Christmas Eve schedule and asked what his was, he wouldn't get home until after I was leaving for church and family stuff. He said he would let me know his plans. While I was in church H sent me txt and said 'will require a chauffuer'. I drove back home and we went together to my family.
I left a couple small gifts for H on the couch. I didn't expect anything from him and I was right. What was odd was his statement on Christmas Day about his gifts. "When do I open these? I didn't know you would get me anything." I just responded with he could open them whenever he wanted. I did not add that I have given him gifts EVERY year thru this whole mess why would this year be different?? Has he really been in that much of a MLC fog that he hasn't even remembered?
The other nice thing was that both of the things he opened right away and put to use. Other years he would just lay them aside and ignore. I did get a card from H, very generic and signed Merry Christmas.
We spent the day with family and had a nice time. I mean really nice. I noticed how H would smile and laugh with his face and eyes again. Also, get this - H forgot his cell phone so he was phoneless the whole day. hahaha. We were in a bit of a rush to leave as at the last minute H remembered he wanted to take one of his old laptops along for my BIL to use and he had to find all the extra pieces.
The only bad note was on the drive home I asked H if he would be able to help me this weekend pick up some new livestock. He said no because he would be hunting all weekend. (Now even the positive here is that he told me before he just left, for a number of years in the middle of this he would just leave without telling me anything except see ya later.) I told H since he would be hunting all weekend he could do chores for me last night and tonight since I would end up doing his chores while he would be hunting. He got a little miffed over me saying I do his chores and tried to tell me he did them even when he went hunting. I hesitated a second thinking I didn't want to end up in a spat over this, but then I thought he really has to understand reality so I explained more and I think he didn't like it but he remembered without admitting anything. Good enough for now for me.
Live your life while you are still living. Riding the trail less traveled.
Other years he would just lay them aside and ignore. I did get a card from H, very generic and signed Merry Christmas. 
